10 Common Lies Told by Women

Why are some relationships more honest than others? Why are some couples more truthful with each other while others like to deceive their partner? Nobody deserves to be lied to, but there is no doubt that women are telling lies more often. But often men do the same.

If you have trust issues in your relationship, in general, a woman may lie to you. Trust is something that you must build from the beginning of the relationship. Even so, a lot of people tell ‘‘white lies” in order to make others feel better. Some women lie because, as caring creatures they want to spare the feelings of the man they are dating or seeing.

So, here are some common lies told by women that you should know. Someday you might hear them from your partner and it is better to know their real meaning.

1. You’re perfect.
I love you just the way you are and I wouldn’t change a thing about you. Let’s be serious; nobody is perfect. At the beginning of a relationship all of them say this because they didn’t know you very well but after some time will definitely find something that needs changing. So, if she tells you something like this, don’t be too enthusiastic because she finds you perfect just for a couple of days, and after that she will ask you to change.

2. You’re right.
Every time you are arguing with your girlfriend, she usually ends up telling you that you are right? Maybe this makes you feel proud of yourself, but you have to know that this is a big lie. She said this just to make you shut up, even if she didn’t consider that you’re right. She knows that after a while you will see that she was right, and she may be waiting for you to apologize.

3. Nothing is wrong.
The most common lie ” I’m fine” when asked if there is something wrong is the most used by women. You see that she is upset, she is acting strange or doesn’t want to talk to you too much. When you ask her what is the problem she says that everything is fine. They don’t want to tell the real truth but they are expecting that you can figure out that something is wrong.

4. I do love sports, Honey.
Maybe she agrees to stay and watch football with you every week, but this doesn’t really mean that she like it. She does this just to show you that she is different from other girls and you have a common interest. You may be thinking that you have found the perfect girl for you, because not many of them would like to stay and watch football, but don’t be too happy because after a while she might have had enough and get angry every time you sit down to watch a game.

5. I like spending time with your friends.
At the beginning this is ok, but not too much. Even if they are your good friends, she would like to spend more time alone with you and not with your friends. If she didn’t tell you this already, she will ask you to keep visits from your buddies at a minimum and then she might keep pretending she loves them.

6. Your family is adorable, so I like spending time with them.
The truth? Maybe twice a month. Think about it. Do you really think that she likes to spend time with your family where everybody is criticizing her and watch her every move? She agrees to spend time with your family when it is necessary but she doesn’t do it with much pleasure even if she is pretending in front of you that she likes them.

7. Your bank account doesn’t matter.
I hope you didn’t believe this. We all know that this is definitely a lie. All women want a guy who is financial stable and independent, a guy who can assure her of a future with no financial problems. This doesn’t mean that you have to be very rich to have a girlfriend, but you have to have some money.

8. It doesn’t bother me if you look at other women, or go to strip-clubs with the boys.
This is too good to be true. Even if she says that this is ok, she will definitely be upset that you want to go. They hate to feel second best to a night out with the guys, and accept this in order to make themselves seem less pathetically needy. If you choose to go, she will make you feel guilty afterwards, so you better think twice before you go.

9. You’re very good in bed.
If she choose to speak about this topic without you asking her, you don’t have to believe all she says. If she starts to compliment you about your sexual prowess it doesn’t mean that she really believes that. Often a woman who cares about a man tells him what she thinks he wants to hear just to make him feel good about himself. So think about your girlfriend, your relationship, your sexual experience and see if you really deserve compliments on this topic.

10. Don’t worry, it happens to everyone.
If you make a mistake, or fail in bed, you might hear this lie from your girlfriend. She doesn’t want to show you how upset she is with you, but in her mind thinks something else. I wouldn’t be too sure that your mistake is forgiven and I would worry about not making too many ” accidents”  like these.

Now it will be easier for you to know when your girlfriend is lying. As you can see, what a woman says is often not what she really thinks.

Abundance Mentality

This is one of the biggest secrets to finding and keeping a good life partner. It not only boils down to what you do, but how you think.

Here’s what happened.

Some time ago, in my 30’s I spent nearly 2 years single. I used to wake up in the morning, leave my expensive house, get into my sports car and drive to my successful engineering business. After work, I went to the health club on my way home, exercised, played squash etc. Often women looked my way and were friendly towards me. Yet I never dated for months on end.

What’s wrong with this picture?

I had left a painful relationship, where I had been rejected by my partner daily. So I believed, that no-one would ever love me again, because I was not worth it. This belief came true in my life.

I just didn’t think that there was someone out there, interested in me. This of course made it right.

Was it because I was unattractive? Hardly, I had a good build, clear skin, was fit and healthy, and even though I didn’t look like Richard Gere, I certainly wasn’t ugly.

Was it because I was financially insecure? No, I owned a good business, drove a fancy car and lived in a big house with a view.

So there was nothing physically, causing my problem. It was all in my mind.

Hey, it gets worse. After some counseling and reading lots of books, I actually got to go and take some action to meet some new people. Then when I did find someone, guess how that worked out.

You see, deep down, I still had that limiting attitude, that I was really fortunate to get anyone at all that wanted to be with me. They sensed it like sharks smelling blood in the water. Describing it as that I partnered up with a predator, would have been an understatement.

The person I attracted, was a gold digger, having no scruples about sleeping with whoever she felt like. Was it her fault, yes BUT it was more my fault. I realized that I allowed it to happen in my mind first. I believed that this was the best I could achieve and had to accept that behavior to actually have anyone in my life at all.

Eventually the boundaries of even my twisted logic broke, when she came back after being with another man, drunk and tried to stab me with a kitchen knife.

How could I allow it to get that far? Easy, I didn’t understand that I had choices. When I realized that even being alone again was better than my present situation, I did get out of that relationship.

Cutting a long story short, the whole issue was me having the wrong belief system.

It took some time, but eventually, I accepted that I was actually OK, and a lot of women could do far worse than to be in a relationship with me. I now also understood, that there were actually many thousands of potential partners for me.

As soon as I started believing this, it was as though some flood gates had opened. I kept running into potential partners at every turn, and I was off the singles scene very quickly.

All I did differently was that I had now accepted that there is actually a complete abundance in our universe. An abundance of suitable people. It was my choice, to accept or reject this fact. That made the difference. Now my physical actions could lead me to my true desires.

My external surroundings had not changed much, Physically I was the same (except getting a bit older, and not much wiser), but my life had turned 180 degrees. Because I allowed it to. I let my mind accept that anything is possible, and nothing could stand in the way of a strong enough belief.

But, only severe pain brought about this realization.

You can avoid the pain. Understand the above, you have many choices now. They will let you do things in more positive ways. Realize, that life will end up teaching you either way, let it be a pleasant instead of painful lesson.

In conclusion, imagine it, believe it, and see what happens.

Remember, keep on loving